Thank you for sharing ❤️🙏. I have shared it with my family and close friends. Your personal experience with grief is expressed well. I hope you find comfort knowing you have helped others deal with their grief - no matter if it is the death of a loved one or the death of a former life. Blessings🙏❤️
Sometimes when we hear of someone we care about going through pain such as this we feel as if we can be the friend that they need only if we have words to say to them.
But most of the time we really don't. We can perhaps offer our friends ourselves to be with them in their moments, to listen, to empathize, to grieve with, to understand the holiness of shared silence and grief, and to just sit with them as they live through what feels as if it cannot be lived through.
I am sorry for the pain, friend. It can't be stopped by denial. I know that. May you be able to bear what seems unbearable by being with those who will see you, hear you, and understand you in all that a relationship of love and care offers.
Chock full of wisdom. Holding this pain with you, Terence.
I’m particularly feeling your declaration that you will not let your heart grow cold. I always think of my dad, who lost a first wife and two of his three children he had with her (not my mom). He suffered in a way that made him tender, which is not always what folks allow it to do. Since having kids three years ago and being in the grinder of community/justice work for 15 years now, and seeing so many old school organizers get hard and cynical, I’ve been thinking a lot about wanting to become more not less tender as the years go on and how this doesn’t come at all easy to me. Thank you for all the ways you exemplify it.
Sending healing and recovery energy. My mother was murdered on November 24, 2018. Her killer went to trial last month in a foreign country and I’m waiting to hear about the outcome. There is no such thing as closure; you just learn to live with the pain. Thank you for your bravery and courage to discuss grief that many would prefer we suppress and stay quiet about.
Thank you for sharing ❤️🙏. I have shared it with my family and close friends. Your personal experience with grief is expressed well. I hope you find comfort knowing you have helped others deal with their grief - no matter if it is the death of a loved one or the death of a former life. Blessings🙏❤️
Sending you so much love, friend. 🌱 Looking forward to chatting with you and Zion when you’re ready. 🩵
Sometimes when we hear of someone we care about going through pain such as this we feel as if we can be the friend that they need only if we have words to say to them.
But most of the time we really don't. We can perhaps offer our friends ourselves to be with them in their moments, to listen, to empathize, to grieve with, to understand the holiness of shared silence and grief, and to just sit with them as they live through what feels as if it cannot be lived through.
I am sorry for the pain, friend. It can't be stopped by denial. I know that. May you be able to bear what seems unbearable by being with those who will see you, hear you, and understand you in all that a relationship of love and care offers.
Chock full of wisdom. Holding this pain with you, Terence.
I’m particularly feeling your declaration that you will not let your heart grow cold. I always think of my dad, who lost a first wife and two of his three children he had with her (not my mom). He suffered in a way that made him tender, which is not always what folks allow it to do. Since having kids three years ago and being in the grinder of community/justice work for 15 years now, and seeing so many old school organizers get hard and cynical, I’ve been thinking a lot about wanting to become more not less tender as the years go on and how this doesn’t come at all easy to me. Thank you for all the ways you exemplify it.
Sending healing and recovery energy. My mother was murdered on November 24, 2018. Her killer went to trial last month in a foreign country and I’m waiting to hear about the outcome. There is no such thing as closure; you just learn to live with the pain. Thank you for your bravery and courage to discuss grief that many would prefer we suppress and stay quiet about.